As a culture, we like to focus on the beginnings of relationships- we are very curious about your first date,  your proposal,  your bridal shower and your wedding. But after the marriage, you may find yourselves utterly on your own. Think about it--when was the last time someone asked you how your marriage was going?

Most of us start out hoping to find a great partner, a loving relationship, and a happily-ever-after. At the beginning of a relationship, we may feel like the other person is the answer to our dreams, that they will heal our wounds and that our relationship will be immune from the common pitfalls that other couples experience. 

For most couples, though, our blueprint for marriage comes from our upbringing. Inadvertently, we fall into familiar patterns passed down from generation to generation. Occasionally, generational patterns can be a strength in a marriage. Often, though, they can be very disruptive and painful.  What is true for most couples is that there is very little guidance or training on how to navigate long-lasting relationships in a healthy, intimate and connected way. 

Couples work is an opportunity to understand these patterns, let go of losing strategies, and learn how to show up with great relational skills. While couples therapy can be challenging, it can make all of the difference in both your emotional well-being and in the health of your relationship. Facing your issues and making solid changes can be your gift to yourselves, your relationship and to the generations that may follow you. 

I can be reached at bonnyslim@bonnyslim.com or 860-231-1282